I just finished up my undergrad life. Wow, what a ride. To be completely real, I hated my undergrad the majority of the time. I felt that the college I chose was a poor fit for me. I felt constricted by the small, private university’s strict rules and conservative, close-minded education. But now that I am done, I have realized that it is vital to look back at the life lessons I’ve learned and pluck out the positives as I move forward.
- I have met some good people and great friends. Sometimes it felt like all of the people around me sucked. But now, I’m at a place where I realize that friendships have its ups and downs– but at the end of the day, if your friendship is intact, it’s absolutely something to be grateful for. Appreciate the people in your life while they are there.
- Keep pursuing passions, even when no one else is spurring you on. In high school, teachers often would pay you extra attention and daily motivate you to pursue the specific interests and skills that you possess. In college, it’s definitely not like that a lot of the time. Instead, you have to push yourself and discover independently. When the opportunities seem slim– you need to create them yourself.
- Your choices now are deeply impactful upon your future. It’s easy to get caught up in the short-term perspective instead of thinking long-term, especially as a college student. But it’s what you need to do. Just because a major is difficult now, it doesn’t mean that you need to immediately switch to something easier. At graduation, you want to be that person who feels accomplished and has a great job lined up. Keep making choices for the future.
- Don’t stop being involved. I made the mistake of hiding away in my room for my senior year of college. I was just so over it. That was such a lousy decision. Stay involved, keep making friends, and be intentional. College is all about what you put into it.
- Don’t let a significant other distract you from who you are and what you want. College is a pivotal time. Don’t forget what you want just because a guy/girl steps in and asks you to change your plans for them. Know what you want and don’t want and don’t easily change your values for others. You’ll regret it.
- Don’t forget to have fun along the way. This year, my life was schoolwork. My friends would suggest having fun instead of hanging out to do homework. I forgot what fun even looked like because I was a whole bundle of stress. Don’t forget this is your life, these are the people in your life, and you need some fun.
- Don’t get in a doom loop of overthinking. Sometimes you just need to try things, explore, and keep doing. Sitting around, thinking about your life or plans is not the most productive all of the time. Don’t look back at past decisions with regret. Keep hustling. You can do it. Move on forward, pal.
- Learn to love where you are, no matter where it is. I was full of self pity and bitterness about where I was. But now I realize, if you’re not able to leave– you might as well learn to love where you are and find joy in it!
This is my last night in my dorm room. As much disdain I’ve felt about this university, I sit here typing and feeling sad about leaving this undergrad season. But, I need to push forward and see what’s next and apply these lessons in my new season!